Relationship : Our wounds and masks - rejection, abandonment, betrayal, humiliation and injustice.

Overview of the 5 wounds and their masks:

Typical wounds of the chaser:

Wound of rejection - mask of escape
Wound of abandonment - mask of dependence

Typical wounds of the runner:

Wound of humiliation - mask of compliance

Wound of betrayal - mask of control

Wound of injustice - mask of rigidity For Chaser

The details:

For Chaser

Wound of rejection:

When it comes to the wound of rejection, the person concerned is questioning his right to exist. The pain is so huge, the person creates himself/herself the mask of escape. S/He tends to withdraw from situations s/he could be rejected by escaping actively or by pulling out of reality (for example by daydreaming).

People who suffer under this wound, tend to not be able to defend or take their place and have very low borders. They often loose a lot of energy, because they tend to melt with others.

Now the runner feels he needs to face his/her emotions because s/he looses the control.

The chaser of the twin flames often suffered from this wound. Because s/he has such low borders s/he is no match for the runner who just is seeking control because of his/her fear of the emotions.

When the wound is healed, the chaser stands strong in his/her borders and his/her self-esteem.

Wound of abandonment:

When it comes to the wound of abandonment, the person concerned has had experiences, in which s/he felt left alone or abandoned. The wound is so deep, the people suffering from it, immediately create the mask of dependence.
People with this wound tend to please others all the time and make themselves dependent from others, just to not be abandoned. They also don’t show their borders or even have never build healthy borders.

They also tend to melt with others and loose a lot of energy along the way. This wound is also typical for the chaser, as they tend to do everything just not be left behind by the runner. Often, they even take humiliation, to the point where they give up themselves.
This situation is used by the runner who is taking full control, because of his/her deep fear of his/her emotions.
When the wound is healed, healthy borders can be developed by the chaser and the runner needs to face his/her emotions, because s/he feels s/he is loosing control.

For Runners

Wound of betrayal:

When it comes to the wound of betrayal, the person concerned has had experiences where s/he felt betrayed or left behind. People with this deep wound soon create the mask of control, trying to hide the wound.
People who suffer from this wound tend to live only in their mind and try to control everything, also their feelings.
When you deal with people suffering from this wound, you will have a hard time standing your ground. These people literally built up walls around their emotional world. When it comes to twin flames, you can easily rank in the runner. Because of this wound, s/he has built up massive walls. Voluntarily the runner would probably never heal this wound.
It takes a person, which means so much to him/her, s/he is forced to face his/her emotions and let go of the control.
The chaser has the potential to help the runner heal his/her wound, but in order to start the healing process the chaser has to be able to show his/her borders to the runner. Now s/he feels s/he is loosing control and has to face his/her emotions.

Wound of humiliation:

When it comes to the wound of humiliation, the person concerned has had experiences where s/he felt degraded, humiliated and ashamed.
Soon the mask of compliance is created to hide from the wound.
The people suffering from this wound also want to control everything, just to avoid a possible humiliation. They tend to play the mother for others, not necessarily because of love, but to make themselves valuable for others and also have the control.
This wound also fits for the runner personality, who doesn’t allow himself/herself to get in touch with his/her emotional world.

Wound of injustice:

When it comes to the wound of injustice, the person concerned has had experiences where s/he felt deeply mistreated. S/He has the feeling not to be respected or not to get what s/he deserves. The mask s/he creates is the mask of rigidity. S/He tends to be stiff, is not easy to talk to and controls his/her emotions.
In the twin flame constellation, the runner tends to suffer from this wound and most of the time is stuck because the pain is deep.
Again, the chaser can help the runner heal the wound by showing him/her healthy borders. Because the love is so strong, s/he will face the wound, when he s/feels your borders.

Conclusion:

This was a short review of the 5 wounds of the soul. It shows you that each of the twin flames have different wounds and that there is no guilt. The egos just stand in the way, desperately trying to prevent them from possible pain. That’s why at the beginning, a relationship between twin flames is not possible most of the time. The connection is so divine and insightful, that our shadows just can’t not exist, so our wounds show up.

The power of setting boundary

We tend to behave sometimes like a chaser, another time like a runner.

The time when you behaved like a chaser:

You, when you are as the chaser, have to take the first steps into your healing. If you do so, you will turn into a person full of self-love, self-esteem and healthy borders. Since twin flames are desperately connected, your twin flame will feel the changes you made.

At the beginning when the chaser has no real borders, the runner can steal a lot of energy from the chaser. S/He desperately needs this energy to be able to have the power to fight against the deep feelings s/he secretly has. So when you do your steps and integrate healthy borders, s/he won’t be able to get the energy. Now the circle is broken and it is only a matter of time until s/he loses the power to go against the love of his/her life. Finally his/her heart will win over his/her mind and the twin flame process has been mastered. Now the door is open for the most divine and deep love on earth!

So, dear chaser: Please realize the power you have in this process.

The time when you behave like a runner:

Sometimes you may appear as a runner, thus you may have to open for the love of the chaser to show you his/her boundary.

With your development you can solve this process. It is in your hands! Heal your wounds, the rest will follow!